People don't want to understand you - they want to label you. You speak up and suddenly you're "too emotional." You stay quiet and now you've "changed." You set boundaries and somehow, you become the villain. People rarely listen to hear you - they listen to judge you. And no matter how carefully you try to explain yourself, they'll still twist your words to fit the version of you they've already created in their heads. So stop breaking yourself just to be understood. Let them misunderstand you.