3 Ways to Reframe Narcissistic Abuse That Can Help You Heal Faster 👇 1. The abuse wasn’t personal; it was never about you. Everything they said and did was a way for them to self-soothe. They believed that putting down others would help them feel better about themselves and regain control, as they didn’t have that in childhood. 2. They belittled you because they felt inadequate and are shame-based at their core. It wasn’t because you weren’t worthy or unlovable; it was a projection 👇 3. The whole relationship was a well-constructed con. You weren’t aware, and therefore you thought you could help them and improve the relationship. This resulted in you staying for a long time. It’s not that you were stupid; you just didn’t have all the facts. Forgive yourself. This is one of the hardest but most crucial things to do in order to heal from narcissistic abuse.