Black American Cowgirl’s

Men,
1. Privacy is power. What people don’t know they can’t ruin. Keep it private, people love to ruin things.
2. The cost of growth is sometimes loneliness. Learn the art of loneliness.
3. Everything is temporary. Be reminded, nothing last forever even the life you are given so stay humble.
4. So many people are fighting silent battles. Be kind.
5. Your partner is a reflection of you. Choose wisely. More reason why you must go after her VALUE SYSTEM And not only the physique.
6. Your mental health is more important than anyone’s feelings. This is something you need to be selfish about.
7. You don’t need more time. You need less distractions. Learn to be focused.
8. Be selfish with your time. A lot of people don't deserve it.
9. Go where your LOVED, APPRECIATED, a priority, recognized, respected and valued without having to ask.
10. Self love isn't selfish.
11. Anyone who makes your life even a little bit easier is a big blessing. Hold unto them, they are few out there.
12. Choose your circle wisely, whoever you allow into your space can affect your state of mind.
13. Peace of mind is priceless.
14. Stop being desperate to be in love and just live.
15. Be around people who have that “grow together” mentality.
16. No regrets in life, just lesson learned the hard way. Dust yourself up and keep pushing.
17. Go for someone who is proud to have you.
18. Never give up everyone has bad days, pick yourself up and keep going.
19. If you get tired, learn to pull back and rest, not to Quit.
20. Disappear. Come back better.
21. Learning from people's success is smart, learning from people's mistakes is genius.
22. How to be happy: dont expect anything from anyone. Don't, people owe you nothing.
23. Everything is going to be alright, maybe not today, but eventually. Always keep a positive and optimistic mindset.
24. Keep grinding. Your day is coming.
25. It’s so attractive when you get the same effort you give.
26. Stop being considerate in situations where you aren’t considered.
27. If nobody will help you, do it alone. And don't complain.
28. Be obsessed with improving yourself.
29. A conversation about how you feel is not supposed to end in a argument.
30. “I’ll do it tomorrow” is a big scam.
31. Don’t be the same, be better.
32. Better to wait than force things to happen.
33. Not everyone will understand you and that's okay.
34. Heal so you don’t become the people that traumatized you.
35. keep your circle small, keep only friends that have senses.
36. If they need you temporarily, ignore them permanently.
37. Everyone leaves. Learn how to survive alone.
38. Disappear if you have to. Focus on you.
39. People start hating you when they cannot control you.
40. Focus on improving yourself, not proving yourself.
41. Never, ever, run back to what broke you.
Keep pushing.

Man to man:

No woman is hard to get.

She is not interested in you.

A woman who is interested in you will break every rule to be with you.

Move on.

Don't call her your woman until you officially marry her...

Men
My neighbor begged me to lend him 10k to give his girlfriend to fix her phone. I asked him;

" why don't you tell your girlfriend that you are broke and can't afford 10k at the moment?"

He replied that he don't want her to be angry and dump him

His answer was too funny to me, after laughing out loud , I simply told him that I don't have 10k to give him.

He left with annoyance and I could see disappointments written on his face.

When he left, I pondered on this and asked some rhetorical questions;

Let's assume that my girlfriend is broke and couldn't fix her phone, then I couldn't help her fix it because I am also broke.

Why would she be angry with me for being broke when she is also broke ?

Why should my own brokenness give her serious concern when she should concentrate on solving hers?

Is she indirectly blaming me for being the cause of her brokenness simply because I am her boyfriend?

If she can't endure with me in my temporal brokenness, how will she be able to face marital challenges with me in the future?

Being broke doesn't automatically make you a poor man. There is nothing wrong with you for being broke even billionaires experience brokenness once in a while .

It is not something you should be ashamed of. The reasons you ventured into a committed relationship are; to check your compatibilities, to test her loyalty and sincerity and to make her know your dons and don'ts Her characters will determine where to place her; whether she belongs to the streets or to be domesticated.

Yes, we are meant to help ourselves but not to your own detriments.

At this stage, she is not yet your responsibility. Whatever you are doing for her is a PRIVILEGE not her RIGHT .

Any woman whom you have not officially married, is not your woman. Don't call her your woman until you pay her bride price because she still have right to flirt with other men without breaking any law.

Don't allow her problems to cause you headache when you have yours.

. Assist her if you can but don't put yourself into debts to impress her

Money can't keep her, . Your sacrifices are nothing to her, women are loyal to their feelings and their feelings are unstable

Stop running helter skelter to help her, she will still dump you without having a second thought.
Be wise
Don't looseguard.
ALPHA VS SIMP

WHAT HURTS A MAN

1. It hurts a man when his wife speaks to other people with more respect and warmth than she does with him

2. It hurts a man when his wife treats him well only when there are visitors

3. It hurts a man when his wife makes him feel less important to the children just because he doesn't have a womb

4. It hurts a man when he is always the one to say sorry even for the things he is not wrong for just because she is emotionally delicate

5. It hurts a man when the wife airs their dirty linen in public, telling her family and friends his flaws and tainting his image

6. It hurts a man when the wife is ever moody, unapproachable, cold and combative, making him feel uncomfortable to come home early

7. It hurts a man when he watches his wife smiling and blushing when she reads text messages from other men over the phone but brushes him off and assumes his presence

8. It hurts a man when the wife is distant, spiteful, not responsive to his touch, mad and not telling him what she is mad for

9. It hurts a man when the wife keeps getting confusing advice from her friends, outsiders and third parties are wrecking what belongs to two

10. It hurts a man when the wife sees nothing else but his negatives. She rarely appreciates his good

11. It hurts a man when the wife does not move past a resolved issue. She is stuck in matters that they agreed to progress from

12. It hurts a man when the wife speaks to him with a tone as if to boss him, order him around or belittle him

13. It hurts a man when the wife doesn't honour him or his effort just because he doesn't earn that much

14. It hurts a man when the wife uses him to get a comfortable life but then she turns to another man for emotional and sexual comfort .

THE DANGER OF FORCING LOVE

It is dangerous to force yourself on someone or marry someone who does not love you. When there is no love in marriage, the wedding ring becomes a little handcuff and your marriage becomes a prison yard instead of a paradise on earth.

A man who does not love a woman during courtship will find it difficult to cherish her after getting married. There are people who will never love you no matter how much you show love to them. That's the reality of life. Love is a choice. Don't force yourself on anyone.

Don't keep fighting to be with someone who isn’t fighting to be with you, you can’t keep holding onto someone who is not holding onto you, you can’t keep planning your future with someone who doesn’t plan theirs with you, you can’t keep running back to someone who is running away from you, you can’t keep loving and caring about someone who shows that they no longer love you, and you can’t keep taking someone as a priority yet they are taking you as their option.

Trust me, it’s a waste of time and energy. No matter how hard and hurting it is, you have to let go and open up a new chapter for your life. Because There are thousand of people who are praying and wishing to spend the rest of their lives with you!

Why kill yourself over someone who thinks he/she is doing you a big favor by being in a relationship with you.

You deserve to be happy, loved and cared for not to be sad all the time, to have sleepless nights, to cry and plead for someone’s love. Think about it.

You have to be in a relationship in which you are loved, celebrated, honored and not tolerated. But until you let go of the wrong person from your life, you can't see the right person for your life.

Sometimes We may love the wrong person, cry for the wrong reasons. But one thing is for sure, mistakes help us to find the right person. Know your place in people's life and act accordingly. It's not pride, it is self respect.

Trust me, once you go through your worst time alone you really don't care who stays in your life anymore.

You're a man. No matter how broke you are, decline offers that come with disrespect

Loving the wrong person.

So many people are suffering in relationships today because they refuse to let go of the person they are currently in a relationship with.

They know the relationship isn't working, but they refuse to leave because they feel they might be able to change the person.

They believe they are willing to go to any length to ensure that the person continues to "love them".

The hardest aspect is that they are doing everything in the hopes that the person would change, even when the person has no intention of changing in the first place.

If you're in a relationship right now where the person is causing you more grief than happiness, then it's time to let them go.

Accepting that things aren't working is the best approach to avoid getting hurt more in this type of relationship.

It's crucial to admit to yourself that the relationship is in disrepair.

I see so many people that are suffering in their current relationships because they refuse to face the reality of its true nature.

If your current relationship isn't working, do me a favor and don't force it, the more you force it, the more you will end up hurting yourself in the long run.

Nobody can take your happiness away if you don't want it taken away. Your happiness is in your hands; your happiness is dependent on you.

If you don't want others to continue to mistreat you......you have the power to stop them.

Take my advice and have the courage to leave the table when respect is no longer being served.

~ Cody Bret

Having no money
is better than being in debt.
Having no girl is better than being with a toxic one.
Being broke beats being in debt.
Being single beats being with someone toxic.
No company is better than bad company.
Peace of mind outweighs the illusion of security.
Starting fresh is easier than fixing what's broken beyond repair.
Silence is sweeter than the noise of forced connections.
Rock bottom has a floor; toxic ties have no end.
Sometimes, less is more.
Sometimes, starting with nothing is the only way to find everything.